Definition
Someone, typically a woman, who puts down other women to gain male approval or seem unique. The person who thinks denigrating their own gender makes them special, when it really just makes them exhausting.
Example Usage
She always talks about how she's 'not like other girls'—total pick me energy.
Origin
Derived from the phrase 'pick me, choose me,' calling out internalized misogyny and performative differentiation
Fun Fact
The term has become so weaponized that some women avoid genuine preferences that might be labeled 'pick me,' creating a new form of policing behavior.
Source: Feminist discourse on TikTok and Twitter
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